Reflections from a Salty Girl

Salty Girl Ministries: Stay salty and let your light shine!

  • There are some stories that stop us in our tracks.

    The kind that make your heart ache, your stomach turn, and your protective instincts rise to the surface.

    Social media has been flooded with reports of a woman who professes to be a Christian and has been accused of verbally and physically endangering a small child while entrusted with that child’s care. If the allegations and available evidence accurately reflect what occurred, the situation is heartbreaking. A child may have experienced trauma. A family’s trust has been shaken. Emotions are high. Many are crying out for justice, while others are asking what grace should look like.

    As Christians, we often find ourselves asking a difficult question:

    How do we respond when someone has committed something that feels almost impossible to forgive?

    The answer isn’t simple, but Scripture gives us a path that holds both truth and love together.

    Truth Without Grace Becomes Condemnation

    Grace Without Truth Becomes Permission

    Jesus never ignored sin. But He never stopped loving sinners. Those two truths must always stay together.

    Too often we swing to one extreme. We excuse sin because we don’t want to seem judgmental. Or we become so consumed with exposing sin that we forget redemption is still available through Christ. Neither response reflects Jesus.

    John describes Jesus as One who came “full of grace and truth” (John 1:14).

    GRACE and TRUTH. Both. That is our calling as well.

    Accountability Is Not the Same Thing as Shame

    This is where many Christians become confused.

    Biblical accountability says,

    “What you did was wrong, and you must take responsibility.”

    Shame says,

    “Because of what you did, you are forever worthless.”

    Those are not the same message. God never excuses sin. But He also never tells a repentant heart that redemption is impossible.

    Think about David. He committed adultery. He arranged a murder. The consequences were devastating. Yet when confronted by Nathan the prophet (2 Samuel 12), David didn’t blame Bathsheba. He didn’t make excuses. He didn’t minimize his actions.

    He simply confessed,

    “I have sinned against the Lord.”

    Psalm 51 records one of the most beautiful prayers of repentance ever written. David was forgiven. But he still experienced consequences. Forgiveness did not erase accountability.

    Repentance Is More Than Saying “I’m Sorry”

    The Greek word for repentance means to change one’s mind and direction.

    Real repentance looks like:

    • Owning what happened.
    • Refusing to make excuses.
    • Accepting consequences.
    • Seeking forgiveness.
    • Making restitution whenever possible.
    • Living differently moving forward.

    John the Baptist said,

    “Produce fruit in keeping with repentance.” (Matthew 3:8)

    James adds,

    “Faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.” (James 2:17)

    Only God truly knows the heart, but transformed hearts eventually produce transformed lives.

    Repentance isn’t measured by tears. It’s measured by changed direction.

    Forgiveness Is Not the Same as Reconciliation

    This may be one of the hardest lessons for believers.

    Jesus commands us to forgive. He does not command us to immediately restore broken trust.

    Forgiveness releases revenge into God’s hands. Reconciliation requires repentance, rebuilding trust, wisdom, and often time.

    Trust is earned. Forgiveness is given. They are not identical.

    God freely offers reconciliation to every person through Christ, but reconciliation is received only by those who respond to Him in repentance and faith (2 Corinthians 5:18–20).

    Relationship always requires a response.

    Forgiveness Is Not the Absence of Justice

    One of the greatest misconceptions among Christians is believing that extending forgiveness means we should stop seeking justice. Scripture teaches otherwise.

    Romans 13 reminds us that governing authorities are established by God to punish wrongdoing and protect the innocent.

    Civil authorities exist for a reason. Reporting abuse. Protecting children. Cooperating with investigations. Accepting legal consequences. These are not signs of unforgiveness. They are often acts of wisdom and obedience.

    When Zacchaeus encountered Jesus, he didn’t simply ask for forgiveness. He made restitution (Luke 19:8). When David sinned, God forgave him, yet he still experienced painful consequences. God’s forgiveness never erased earthly responsibility.

    Seeking justice is not revenge.

    Justice says, “What happened matters.”

    Revenge says, “I want to make you suffer.”

    Those are very different responses.

    Micah 6:8 reminds us,

    “Act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God.”

    Christians are called to do all three.

    Grace vs. Mercy

    These two beautiful words are related, but different.

    Mercy is not receiving the punishment we deserve.

    Grace is receiving blessings we never deserved.

    God offers both.

    James writes,

    “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” (James 4:6)

    Humility matters. Accountability matters. Repentance matters.

    What About When There Is No Apology?

    This may be where your heart struggles most.

    What if the person never admits wrongdoing? What if they never apologize? What if they continue denying everything despite overwhelming evidence?

    Can we still forgive?

    Yes. Because forgiveness is not dependent upon their response. Forgiveness is an act of obedience that frees our hearts from becoming prisoners of bitterness.

    Romans 12:19 reminds us,

    “Do not take revenge… but leave room for God’s wrath.”

    Forgiveness says, “God, I trust You to judge righteously.”

    It does not say, “What happened didn’t matter.”

    It mattered deeply. God sees every tear. Every wound. Every injustice.

    Loving Someone Does Not Mean Removing Boundaries

    Sometimes Christians believe boundaries aren’t loving.

    Jesus modeled healthy boundaries constantly. He walked away from hostile crowds. He didn’t entrust Himself to everyone (John 2:24–25).

    He confronted sin. He challenged hypocrisy. He even rebuked Peter when Peter opposed God’s plan (Matthew 16:23).

    Jesus loved perfectly. Yet He still established healthy boundaries.

    If someone has demonstrated dangerous behavior, protecting children and vulnerable people is not a lack of forgiveness. It is wisdom. Healthy boundaries protect others while leaving room for God to work in someone’s heart.

    How Do We Pray for Someone Who Has Hurt Others?

    This is one of the greatest tests of Christian maturity. Pray for justice. Pray for truth. Pray for repentance. Pray for conviction. Pray for healing. Pray for salvation. Pray for restoration—in God’s timing.

    Jesus prayed for those crucifying Him,

    “Father, forgive them…” (Luke 23:34)

    Stephen prayed similarly while being stoned (Acts 7:60).

    Neither denied the evil being committed. Neither excused the sin. They simply refused to let hatred have the final word.

    Supporting Both the Victim and the Accused

    This requires tremendous wisdom.

    Supporting the victim means:

    • Believing their pain.
    • Prioritizing safety.
    • Encouraging healing.
    • Cooperating with lawful authorities.
    • Protecting vulnerable people.
    • Refusing to minimize the harm.

    Supporting the accused does not mean denying reality. It means recognizing that every person is still made in God’s image and is never beyond Christ’s power to redeem.

    Supporting the accused means praying for genuine repentance. Encouraging honesty. Calling them toward truth. Hoping for spiritual restoration while recognizing that legal, relational, and practical consequences may still be necessary.

    Supporting the accused never means asking the victim to remain silent.

    Supporting the victim never means declaring that redemption is impossible.

    Christians can stand firmly beside those who have been hurt while still praying that the one who caused the hurt encounters genuine conviction, repentance, and transformation through Christ.

    Jesus demonstrated this beautifully with the woman caught in adultery. He protected her from an unjust mob. But He did not minimize her sin. His final words were,

    “Go, and from now on sin no more.” (John 8:11)

    Grace always invited transformation.

    Peter provides another beautiful picture. After denying Jesus three times, Peter was lovingly confronted and restored by Christ (John 21).

    Jesus didn’t ignore Peter’s failure. He addressed it. Restored him. Then entrusted him with ministry.

    Forgiveness included accountability.

    Guard Your Own Heart

    Perhaps the greatest danger is allowing someone else’s sin to produce sin in us.

    Anger becomes hatred. Justice becomes vengeance. Discernment becomes gossip. Protection becomes pride.

    Paul writes,

    “Be angry and do not sin.” (Ephesians 4:26)

    Notice he doesn’t say never be angry. Some things should make us angry.

    Abuse. Cruelty. Betrayal. The exploitation of the vulnerable.

    These grieve the heart of God.

    The question isn’t whether we become angry. The question is what we do with that anger.

    Will it move us toward Christ…or away from Him?

    A Final Thought

    Friend, there are moments when grace feels costly. When forgiveness feels impossible. When your heart cries,

    “But they don’t deserve it.”

    The truth is…Neither did we.

    That does not erase consequences. That does not remove accountability. That does not dismiss justice.

    It simply reminds us that every one of us stands at the foot of the cross because of mercy we could never earn.

    As followers of Jesus, we are called to love what He loves and hate what He hates.

    God hates evil. He hates oppression. He hates the abuse of the innocent.

    He also desires that sinners come to repentance (Ezekiel 33:11; 2 Peter 3:9).

    Those truths are not in conflict. The Gospel never asks us to choose between truth and grace. It calls us to hold tightly to both.

    We defend the innocent because God loves justice.

    We pray for sinners because God loves redemption.

    We establish wise boundaries because wisdom protects.

    We forgive because Christ forgave us.

    We leave vengeance to God because His justice is perfect.

    And we never stop believing that no heart is beyond the reach of Jesus—even while recognizing that earthly consequences may remain.

    May we be people who hold tightly to truth without losing compassion, who extend forgiveness without excusing sin, and who trust the God who is perfectly just, perfectly holy, and perfectly merciful.

    Prayer

    Jesus, teach us to respond as You would. Give us wisdom to protect the vulnerable, courage to stand for truth, humility to examine our own hearts, and compassion that never excuses sin but always points toward redemption. Heal those who have been wounded. Bring conviction where there has been wrongdoing. Lead those who have caused harm to genuine repentance. Guard us from bitterness, gossip, vengeance, or self-righteousness. Help us reflect Your grace without compromising Your truth. May everything we do honor You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

  • Breaking Free from Comparison: Resting in God’s Unique Design for You
    Angie Ring, Salty Girl Ministries

    There is a quiet battle many Christian women fight—one we don’t always say out loud.

    We scroll.
    We observe.
    We measure.
    And before we know it, we are comparing.

    Her ministry looks bigger.
    Her home looks cleaner.
    Her children seem more well-behaved.
    Her marriage looks stronger.
    Her faith appears deeper.
    Her body looks younger.
    Her confidence feels louder.

    And suddenly, without meaning to, we’ve stepped into a comparison trap that quietly steals our joy.

    If you’ve ever felt that tug, you’re not alone. I’ve felt it too.

    When Comparison Creeps In

    The apostle Paul addresses this directly:

    “We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.”
    — 2 Corinthians 10:12

    Comparison feels natural—but Scripture calls it unwise.

    Why? Because comparison shifts our focus from God’s calling on us to God’s work in someone else.

    It replaces gratitude with insecurity.
    It replaces purpose with performance.
    It replaces peace with pressure.

    And here’s the truth: comparison is not rooted in humility. It’s rooted in insecurity.

    But insecurity was never meant to define a daughter of God.

    You Were Designed on Purpose

    Psalm 139 is one of the most tender reminders of who we really are:

    “For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made…”
    — Psalm 139:13–14

    Read that again slowly.

    You were knit together.
    Not mass-produced.
    Not copied.
    Not rushed.

    Handcrafted.

    The same God who designed oceans, galaxies, and mountaintops intentionally designed you—your personality, your gifts, your voice, your wiring, even your journey.

    Comparison whispers: “You should be more like her.”
    Psalm 139 declares: “You were created to be you.”

    Every Season Brings Its Own Comparison Trap

    Comparison doesn’t disappear with age. It simply changes shape.

    • Young women compare beauty, relationships, and calling.
    • Mothers compare parenting styles and outcomes.
    • Career women compare success and influence.
    • Women in ministry compare growth and visibility.
    • Empty nesters compare legacy and relevance.
    • Seasoned women compare vitality and impact.

    No season is immune.

    That’s why we must anchor our identity somewhere deeper than circumstance.

    The Root Issue: Identity

    When we compare, what we’re really saying is:

    “Maybe who I am isn’t enough.”

    But Psalm 139 doesn’t say you were adequately made. It says you were wonderfully made.

    Comparison questions God’s craftsmanship.

    And friend, God does not make mistakes

    From Comparison to Calling

    If I’m honest, my personal battle with comparison didn’t start in adulthood. It started in childhood.

    I remember what it felt like to be left out. To feel overlooked. To be rejected by girls I thought were my friends. I didn’t have the language for it then, but what was taking root in my heart was comparison.

    I began measuring myself against everyone around me.

    Was I pretty enough?
    Smart enough?
    Talented enough?
    Popular enough?
    Rich enough?

    And somehow, in my own mind, I never quite measured up.

    Those early feelings of inadequacy quietly followed me into adulthood. Comparison didn’t disappear—it just changed form.

    In dating relationships, I compared.
    In marriage, I compared.
    Through divorce, I compared. In parenting, I compared.
    In workplaces, I compared.

    And each time I compared, the same old lie resurfaced: You’re not enough.

    What seemed like a natural human instinct—measuring myself against others—became a thief. It stole joy. It stole peace. It stole confidence. It even tried to steal my spiritual identity.

    There were seasons when comparison crept into my faith life and ministry. I would look at other women and think:

    Why is her platform growing faster?
    Why does she seem more confident?
    Why does her calling look bigger?

    Comparison doesn’t just attack our appearance or our success—it attacks our identity in Christ.

    As humans, it feels natural to compare. We look around to see how we “add up.” But 2 Corinthians 10:12 reminds us that when we measure ourselves against others, we step into something unwise. What feels natural is often spiritually harmful.

    Comparison denies the truth that we were never meant to be the same.

    It wasn’t until I truly began to understand Psalm 139—not just quote it, but believe it—that something shifted in me.

    I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
    Knit together intentionally.
    Designed on purpose.

    Not accidentally overlooked.
    Not randomly assembled.
    Not created as a lesser version of someone else.

    When I began to embrace that God created each of us uniquely—intentionally different, but equally valuable—it changed everything. I stopped asking, “How do I measure up?” and started asking, “How has God uniquely designed me?”

    And that shift produced something comparison never could: confidence rooted in Christ.

    Not loud confidence.
    Not arrogant confidence.
    But settled confidence.

    The kind that says, “I don’t have to compete. I just have to be obedient.”

    When we finally realize that God’s design is not flawed—that our differences are intentional—that our stories, even the painful chapters, are part of His craftsmanship—joy begins to rise.

    We stop shrinking.
    We stop striving.
    We stop apologizing for who we are.

    And we begin stepping forward with purpose and excitement into what was already ordained by God Himself.

    Comparison told me I was behind.
    Truth reminded me I was being built.

    And now, instead of measuring myself against other women, I celebrate them—because their design doesn’t diminish mine.

    It confirms that our God is wildly creative.

    And He didn’t duplicate you.

    He designed you.

    Confidence Is Not Arrogance

    Confidence in God’s design is not pride. It is agreement with Heaven.

    True confidence says:

    • God chose me for this assignment.
    • My pace is allowed to look different.
    • My gifts don’t have to look like hers to be valuable.
    • My season is purposeful—even if it feels small.

    We are not called to be replicas. We are called to be reflections—of Christ.

    And Christ is beautifully expressed through diversity in His daughters.

    What Happens When We Stop Comparing

    When we break free from comparison:

    • We celebrate other women without insecurity.
    • We rest in our own lane.
    • We steward what’s in our hands.
    • We experience joy again.

    We move from competition to collaboration.
    From insecurity to identity.
    From striving to surrender.

    And that shift? It changes everything.

    A Gentle Invitation

    If comparison has been quietly stealing your peace, take a moment today and pray through Psalm 139.

    Ask yourself:

    • Where have I been measuring myself against others?
    • What has God uniquely entrusted to me?
    • What lies have I believed about my worth?

    Then speak truth over yourself.

    You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
    You are not behind.
    You are not overlooked.
    You are not inadequate.

    You are designed.

    And when you walk confidently in God’s unique design for you, you give other women permission to do the same.

    That’s how we rise together.

    So, Salty Girl, lift your head! You were never meant to compete.
    You were created to shine!

    Closing Prayer

    Father,
    Forgive us for the moments we have compared what You designed uniquely.
    Help us see ourselves through Your eyes.
    Root our confidence in Your truth, not in culture’s measurements.
    Teach us to celebrate our sisters and rest in our calling.
    Remind us daily that we are fearfully and wonderfully made.
    In Jesus’ name, Amen.

  • Life doesn’t always feel beautiful. Some seasons feel like survival—nights filled with tears, mornings filled with questions, and days spent carrying weights no one else sees. Maybe you’re walking through trauma. Maybe past wounds keep reopening. Maybe the bills don’t match the paycheck. Maybe your heart feels lonely in a house full of people. Maybe your emotions feel louder than your prayers.

    If that’s you today, sister—you’re not alone.

    And here’s the truth that might feel hard to hold:
    You can have a grateful heart even when life isn’t great.
    Not by pretending everything is fine… but by learning where to place your focus, your hope, and your community.

    1. Gratitude Begins With an Honest Heart

    Gratitude isn’t denial.
    You don’t have to sugarcoat your life to be thankful. God never asked you to smile through pain or bury your feelings. In fact, Scripture shows us women and men who poured their hearts out raw before Him.

    “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18

    A grateful heart begins when you:

    • Tell God the truth about how you’re feeling
    • Let Him meet you in the mess, not the performance
    • Release the pressure to “have it all together”

    Honesty opens the door for healing. Healing makes room for gratitude.

    2. Gratitude Grows When You Shift Your Gaze

    When everything feels heavy, gratitude feels impossible—until you shift your focus from what’s missing to Who is present.

    “Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith…” — Hebrews 12:2

    Looking at problems magnifies them.
    Looking at Jesus magnifies hope.

    Try this simple shift:
    Instead of asking, “Why is this happening?” ask, “Where is God with me in this?”

    Even in the hardest seasons, God is:

    • Providing daily bread
    • Carrying burdens you can’t lift
    • Sending comfort through Scripture
    • Surrounding you with people you might not have noticed yet
    • Whispering peace into chaos

    You don’t have to be grateful for the pain to be grateful in the pain.

    3. Gratitude Deepens in Community

    Women were never meant to do life alone—especially not the hard parts.

    Satan loves isolation because it silences strength. But God designed community as a place for healing, encouragement, accountability, and hope.

    “Two are better than one… If one falls down, the other can help them up.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9–10

    When you sit with other women who have walked through fire and survived, something in your spirit rises and says, “If God brought her through, He can bring me through too.”

    Sisterhood creates space for:

    • Shared tears and shared victories
    • Safe conversations about struggles
    • Prayer that lifts what you can’t carry
    • Wisdom from women who’ve lived it
    • Breakthroughs that happen when you’re not fighting alone

    This is why women’s ministries matter. This is why mentorship matters.
    This is why you need other women—and why they need you.

    4. Mentorship, Counsel, and Coaching Bring Stability to the Storm

    Sometimes your heart needs more than encouragement—
    it needs guidance, structure, and steady spiritual support.

    Christian mentorship or coaching can help you:

    • Process pain through a biblical lens
    • Break patterns that keep you stuck
    • Build confidence rooted in identity, not insecurity
    • Navigate emotional and relational struggles
    • Set goals aligned with God’s purpose
    • Grow spiritually with accountability

    “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” — Proverbs 15:22

    You don’t need a mentor because you’re weak.
    You need one because God never intended you to walk alone.

    5. Gratitude Flourishes When You Remember the Bigger Story

    Your current chapter is not your whole story. God is weaving threads you can’t see yet.

    “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him…” — Romans 8:28

    Even when you can’t feel it—God is working.
    Even when you don’t see change—God is moving.
    Even when you’re hurting—God is healing things under the surface.

    Gratitude becomes possible when you trust:

    • God is still good
    • God is still with you
    • God is still writing your story

    And He doesn’t write tragedies—He writes testimonies.

    6. A Simple Gratitude Practice for Hard Seasons

    Try this each night:

    The “3 + 1” Reset

    • Three things you can thank God for today
      (Even small things: warm food, a kind text, a moment of quiet)
    • One thing that felt heavy
      (And release it to Him in prayer)

    Little by little, your heart softens.
    Your mindset shifts.
    Your spirit strengthens.

    Because gratitude isn’t a feeling—it’s a discipline.
    And it becomes a lifestyle.

    Final Encouragement

    If life isn’t great right now, hear this in love:

    You are not failing. You are not forgotten. You are not alone.
    Your grateful heart is not built in perfect seasons—it’s forged in the fire.

    God sees you.
    God loves you.
    God is restoring you in ways you can’t even imagine yet.

    And your sisters—your community—are here to walk beside you.

    You were never meant to do this alone, beautiful friend.
    Let’s grow grateful hearts together, one honest step at a time.

    Father, thank You for being close to the brokenhearted. Thank You that gratitude isn’t about perfection—it’s about Your presence. Teach us to fix our eyes on Jesus in every season. Surround us with godly women who lift and encourage us. Heal the places in us that feel burdened, forgotten, or unseen. Grow a grateful heart within us, even in the hard places. We trust You with our stories. Amen.

  • Faith-Filled Friendships: Building a Circle That Lifts You Up

    We just returned form our annual fall women’s retreat. Reflecting back on the last week and all the ways that God showed up for us, I am overwhelmed with gratitude at His faithfulness to us. God promises us in His Word that He will never leave us alone. In our journey of faith, not only do we have His Holy Spirit to guide us and nurture us, He also places special people in our lives to walk with us, pray with us, and grow with us. Friendship is one of God’s sweetest gifts. The right circle of friends can strengthen faith, encourage growth, and help keep hearts aligned with divine purpose. In a world that often celebrates independence and self-sufficiency, faith-filled friendships remind believers that community is part of God’s design.

    The Power of Faith-Filled Friendships

    Faith-filled friendships are rooted in Christ. They go beyond surface-level connection and reach into the soul, offering encouragement, prayer, and accountability. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” True friends sharpen each other spiritually, helping one another grow stronger in faith and character.

    These friendships are not just about comfort—they are about calling. A loyal Christian friend will celebrate victories, pray through valleys, and lovingly correct when someone begins to drift from God’s path. A sister in Christ who sees your potential and calls you back to it is not criticizing you – she’s loving you enough to remind you of who you are in Christ. Galatians 6:1-2 reminds believers, “Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently… Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”

    Finding Faith-Filled Friends

    Faith-filled friendships often begin in places where God’s presence is sought. These relationships can be found in:

    • Church communities: Joining small groups, Bible studies, or ministry teams creates opportunities to meet others who share a desire to grow in faith.
    • Faith-based events: Conferences, retreats, and worship nights bring together believers who are passionate about pursuing God.
    • Service opportunities: Volunteering in outreach or missions connects hearts through shared purpose and compassion.

    When seeking these friendships, prayer is essential. Ask God to bring people who will walk alongside in truth and love. Proverbs 13:20 says, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Choosing friends who are wise in faith leads to spiritual growth and protection.

    Building a Circle of Accountability and Encouragement

    A faith-filled circle thrives on trust, honesty, and shared commitment to God’s Word. Building such a circle involves intentional steps:

    1. Be authentic. Vulnerability invites connection. When hearts are open about struggles and victories, others feel safe to do the same.
    2. Pray together. Prayer strengthens bonds and keeps Christ at the center of every relationship.
    3. Encourage consistently. Speak life into one another. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 says, “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”
    4. Hold each other accountable. Accountability is not judgment—it’s love in action. When friends lovingly correct or challenge, they help each other stay aligned with God’s will.
    5. Celebrate growth. Rejoice in each other’s spiritual milestones and answered prayers.

    The Blessing of a Faithful Circle

    A circle rooted in faith becomes a reflection of God’s love. It’s a space where grace flows freely, truth is spoken gently, and encouragement is constant. Your circle matters. Choose women who pull you closer to your calling, not those who distract you from it. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 beautifully captures this truth: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”

    Faith-filled friendships remind believers that no one walks alone. They are a living testimony of God’s design for community—where hearts are lifted, faith is strengthened, and lives are transformed.

    Building such a circle takes time, prayer, and intentionality, but the reward is eternal. Surrounded by loyal, faithful friends who love God deeply, every believer can stand firm, grow stronger, and fulfill the divine purpose set before them.

    In a world where relationships can feel shallow or transactional, having a circle of women who pray with you, speak truth to you, and love you enough to hold you accountable is a priceless gift. These are the friends who don’t just walk beside you, they point you back to Jesus every time you drift.

    Lord, thank you for the gift of Godly friendships. Surround me with women who sharpen me, pray with me, and speak truth in love. Help me to be that kind of friend: loyal, kind, and full of grace. Build my circle so that together, we lift You higher. In Jesus name, Amen

  • Learning to Hear God’s Voice

    in a Noisy World

    He who has ears to hear, let him hear.” Matthew 11:15

    If you’re anything like me, your world is filled with noise. We live in a world that loves to shout! Social media screams for attention. Society tries to tell us what and who we should be and what we should be doing. Even our own inner critic can drown out truth with lies about who we are and what we’re worth. The noise is constant and often convincing.

    The Competing Voices Around Us

    We’re women with responsibilities, families, relationships, dreams, and distractions. Amid all the hustle , it’s easy to wonder: How can I possibly hear God’s voice in the middle of all this?

    The truth is God is speaking. He always has been. But sometimes, we’ve simply turned the volume up so loud in everything else that we can’t hear His gentle whisper. From social media notifications to demanding careers and family responsibilities, it can feel impossible to discern God’s still small voice amidst the chaos, but as Christian women, hearing God’s voice is essential for navigating life’s challenges and fulfilling His purpose for us.

    Jesus reminds us in John 10:27: “My sheep listen to My voice; I know them, and they follow Me.”

    The question isn’t whether God speaks; it’s whether we have created the space to listen. How do we tune out the noise and truly connect with our Creator?

    The Importance of Quiet Time

    In 1 Kings 19, Elijah didn’t hear God in the wind, the earthquake, or the fire. He heard Him in a still, small voice. That same stillness is available to us when we step away form the noise and into His presence.

    Psalm 46: 10 tells us, “Be still, and know that I Am God.” This verse isn’t just a nice sentiment; it’s a directive. God often speaks in the quiet moments, when we intentionally set aside distractions and create space just for Him. Think of it like trying to hear a whisper in a crowded room. you need to find a quiet corner to truly listen!

    You don’t need a perfect prayer closet or an hour-long devotional time to find quiet. Start with what you have. Maybe it’s ten minutes before the kids wake up, five minutes in the car before going into work, or a few minutes at night when the house finally calms. It’s not about the length of time, but the intentionality of your heart.

    Here are a few simple ways to quiet the noise and tune into God’s voice:

    • Start your day with HIm: Before reaching for your phone, reach for Him. Whether it’s a short greeting or even a quick prayer when you wake up, take a few minutes just for you and God.
    • Use Scripture as a doorway: God often speaks through HIs Word. Try reading one verse slowly and asking, “God, what are you saying to me here?”
    • Practice holy stillness. Set a timer for five minutes. Sit quietly. Don’t talk, just be. Let your heart listen.
    • Journal your prayers and thoughts. Writing can help you discern God’s voice over your own.
    • Turn down the world’s volume. Consider taking short breaks from media, news, or anything that floods your mind. Make room for God’s truth to rise above the noise.

    God’s Voice Sounds Like Love and Truth

    When you do hear God- and you will!- it won’t sound like guilt, pressure, or shame. His voice always reflects His character: faithful, loving, and kind.

    Hearing God’s voice isn’t about earning His favor. It’s about deepening our relationship with a God who already loves us unconditionally. God isn’t just speaking to you; He’s guiding you, cheering for you, and walking with you. He wants to be involved in every part of your life, not just the big moments, not just the hard moments.

    Friend, you are not just another woman in a sea of noise. You are deeply loved, known, and pursued by a God who still speaks. He is not silent. He is not distant. He is near. And He delights in revealing His heart to you!

    As we begin to create quiet spaces, lean into His Word, and prioritize His presence, we will find what our souls have longed for all along: His voice, steady and sure, whispering, “This is the way, walk in it ” (Isaiah 30:21).

    Lord, help me to hear You above the noise. Teach me to slow down, to seek You first, and to trust Your still, faithful voice. Thank you for loving me, guiding me, and never giving up on me. Speak, Lord, Your daughter is listening. Amen

  • Living a Life That Puts God at the Center

    “But seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.” Matthew 6:33

    Life gets busy. Between work, family, errands, and everything in between, it’s easy to wake up and hit the ground running. Before we know it, the day has slipped through our fingers, and sometimes, so has our time with God.

    But what if the most powerful shift we could make isn’t in managing our schedule better, but in changing what (or who) we put first?

    What It Means to Put God First

    Putting God first isn’t about adding another task to our already long to-do list. It’s about reordering our hearts. It’s saying, “Lord, before anything else- before I scroll, respond, or rush- I choose You.”

    It’s an invitation, not just religion. It’s making space to hear His voice, sense His peace, and align our steps with HIs will.

    And here’s the truth: when we give God the first, He blesses the rest!

    Why It Matters

    God isn’t asking us to seek Him first because He needs it. He asks us because we do.

    We need His wisdom before we respond to that text.

    We need His peace before we enter the workplace.

    We need His strength before we parent, serve, love, or lead.

    When we put Him first, we’re reminded that we’re not doing life alone. The God who spoke the world into existence is walking with us, and He’s faithful in every season.

    “The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is His faithfulness; His mercies begin afresh every morning. Lamentations 3:22-23

    Simple Ways to Put God First (Even When You’re Busy!)

    1. Start the Morning with Him. Even five minutes of quiet with a cup of coffee, your Bible, and a whispered prayer can reset your whole day. Read a Psalm. Thank Him for who He is. Invite Him into your day.
    2. Talk to Him Throughout the day. Prayer doesn’t have to be long or formal. It can be, “Lord, give me patience,” in the carpool line or, “Lord, help me love well,” before a hard conversation.
    3. Fill Your Environment with Truth. Play worship music while you clean. Put Scripture on your phone lock screen. Keep a devotional in your purse or bag. These little reminders shift our focus upward.
    4. Let His Word Guide Your Choices. Ask before acting, “Does this align with what God wants for me?” When His Word becomes your compass, clarity and peace follow.
    5. Practice Sabbath Moments. Even if you can’t take a whole day off, create pockets of rest: moments to breathe, be still, and know that He is God (Psalm 46:10).

    The Beauty of Relationship

    God desires relationship, not just routine. He isn’t watching the clock to see how much time you give Him; He’s looking at your heart. The more time you spend with Him, the more you’ll hear His voice, sense His direction, and trust His timing.

    You’ll begin to see the fruit:

    • Peace in the chaos.
    • Clarity in confusion.
    • Confidence in your calling.

    When we draw near to Him, He draws near to us (James 4:8). And the more we understand His heart, the more we want to walk in step with His will.

    Encouragement for the Journey

    Friend, you are not alone in the busyness of life. God sees every unseen effort, every whispered prayer, every moment you choose Him even when it’s hard. His love for you isn’t based on performance, but on His unchanging faithfulness.

    He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. And when you put Him first, we live in the strength of that truth.

    Let today be a fresh start- not to do more, but to rest more in Him. He’s already gone before you. He’s with you now. And He’ll be faithful in every step ahead.

    “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek HIs will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take.” Proverbs 3:5-6

  • Overcoming Struggles with God’s Faithfulness

    Ladies, let’s talk about something!

    As women, we navigate a myriad of challenges – physical, mental, and spiritual. We juggle responsibilities, strive for excellence, and often feel the weight of expectations. Yet, within each of us resides a powerful force, a divine gift: the Holy Spirit.

    Facing Our Battles with God’s Armor

    Life throws curveballs. And when we least expect it, if we are not careful, those curveballs can fly up and hit us smack in the face! Things like:

    • Physical exhaustion: Demands on our time and energy can leave us feeling depleted.
    • Mental and emotional strain: Worry, anxiety, and past traumas can cloud our minds and hearts.
    • Spiritual battles: Doubt, temptation, and feelings of inadequacy can hinder our faith journey.

    But take heart! God promises to be on the playing field of life with us!

    God doesn’t promise a life free from struggle, but He does promise to be with us in the struggle. He equips us with the power of the Holy Spirit to overcome every obstacle. 2 Thessalonians 3:3 promises us that “the Lord is faithful; He will strengthen you and guard you from the evil one.”

    God’s Promises: Anchors for Our Souls

    The Bible is overflowing with promises that tackle life’s curveballs head-on and speak directly to the challenges we face. Let’s explore a few:

    • For strength: “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.” (Isaiah 40:29). When you feel like you can’t go on, tap into the limitless power of the Holy Spirit within you. Ask for His strength, and He will provide.
    • For peace: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” (John 14:27). When anxiety threatens to overwhelm you, remember Jesus’ promise of peace. Breathe deeply, pray, and invite the Holy Spirit to calm your mind and heart.
    • For guidance: “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” (Psalm 119:105). When you feel lost or uncertain, turn to God’s Word. The Holy Spirit will illuminate the path ahead and guide you in making wise decisions.

    Living a Life of Impact

    The Holy Spirit isn’t just for personal comfort; He empowers us to live impactful lives for others. As we allow the Holy Spirit to work through us, we become vessels of love, compassion, and grace. We can:

    • Offer a listening ear to a friend in need.
    • Volunteer our time to serve our community.
    • Share our faith with those who are seeking.
    • Be a light in a dark world.

    The Holy Spirit empowers us to be bold witnesses for Christ, making a tangible difference in the lives of those around us.

    Sisters, you are not alone. You are strong, capable, and deeply loved by God. Embrace the power of the Holy Spirit within you, claim God’s promises, and step into the fullness of your calling. May your life be a testament to His faithfulness and a beacon of hope to all who encounter you.

    A Salty Girl

  • Why Christian Connection Matters

    In a world that often feels isolating, the connections we share with fellow Christians are more vital than ever. These relationships provide support, encouragement, and a deeper understanding of our faith. The Bible emphasizes the importance of fellowship, community, and building one another up. As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. (Proverbs 27:17)

    The Biblical Foundation

    The New Testament is filled with examples of Christians connecting and supporting each other:

    • Acts 2:42: “They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.”
    • Hebrews 10:24-25: “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
    • 1 Thessalonians 5:11: “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”

    These verses highlight the early church’s commitment to fellowship, mutual encouragement, and shared learning. These actions fostered a strong sense of community, which helped them navigate challenges and grow in their faith.

    The Benefits of Fellowship


    Spiritual Growth: Engaging in meaningful conversations about faith, sharing insights, and studying the Bible together helps deepen our understanding and strengthens our spiritual foundation.
    Emotional Support: Life can be challenging. Connecting with other Christians provides a safe space to share our burdens, receive encouragement, and find comfort during difficult times.
    Accountability: Being part of a Christian community helps us stay accountable in our faith journey. We can encourage each other to live according to biblical principles and offer support when we stumble.
    Practical Assistance: Christian connections extend beyond spiritual support. We can offer practical help to one another, whether it’s through acts of service, financial assistance, or simply lending a helping hand.    		Combating Loneliness: Fellowship provides a sense of belonging and combats feelings of isolation. Knowing that we are part of a larger community of believers can bring comfort and joy.
    Shared Experiences: Sharing our faith journey with others creates a bond of understanding. We can learn from each other’s experiences, celebrate victories, and navigate challenges together.
    Evangelism Opportunities: Connecting with other Christians allows us to share our faith with a wider circle of people. By building relationships, we can create opportunities to introduce others to Christ.Mentorship and Discipleship: More seasoned Christians can mentor new believers, guiding them in their faith journey and helping them grow in their relationship with Christ.
    Building Christian Connections

    Here are some practical and fun ways to build and strengthen Christian connections:

    • Attend Church Regularly: Put church services at the top of your to-do list! It’s a chance to worship as a team, soak up some divine wisdom, and mingle with fellow believers.
    • Join a Small Group: Tiny gatherings create a cozy nook for bonding, swapping life tales, and diving deep into Bible study adventures!
    • Volunteer Together: Teaming up with fellow Christians for ministry or community projects weaves a tapestry of unity and shared purpose.
    • Attend Christian Events: Dive into conferences, retreats, and other Christian events to mingle with new faces and turbocharge your faith!
    • Offer Help and Support: Take the initiative to lend a hand and cheer on fellow Christians, whether it’s through prayer, a pep talk, or rolling up your sleeves to help out!
    • Be Open and Vulnerable: Share your experiences, struggles, and victories with others. This creates a safe space for vulnerability and builds bridges for heart-to-heart connections.
    • Pray for One Another: Keep your prayer game strong, sending uplifting thoughts and prayers for your fellow Christians and their needs!
    • Forgive and Seek Reconciliation: Conflicts are inevitable in any relationship. When tempers flare, channel your inner peacemaker: forgive fast and mend those fences!
    • Practice Hospitality: Roll out the welcome mat and invite fellow Christians over for some good food, heartwarming fellowship, and uplifting chats. It’s like throwing a party for the soul where everyone feels right at home!
    • Use Social Media Wisely: Link up with your fellow Christians online, but keep in mind—virtual hugs and high-fives are great, but they should enhance, not swap out, those real-life coffee chats!
    A Call to Action

    Christian connection isn’t just a warm-and-fuzzy concept; it’s the heartbeat of our faith adventure! By putting fellowship, community, and relationship-building front and center, we dive into richer spiritual growth, emotional hugs, and hands-on help.

    Let’s pledge to supercharge our bonds with fellow believers, cheer each other on, and radiate Christ’s light together. As Galatians 6:2 says, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ.”.’

    A Salty Girl

  • In the hustle and bustle of life, we often find ourselves swept away by a tornado of tasks, with “me-time” disappearing like socks in a dryer. But hey, as Christians, we’re tasked with being top-notch caretakers of our body-temple combo, housing the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). So remember, self-care isn’t a guilty pleasure—it’s essential for leveling up spiritually and being a service superhero! After all, it’s hard to serve if you are feeling tired, worn out, discouraged, and empty.

    Biblical Basis for Rest and Renewal

    The Bible is like a big ol’ reminder that rest is as essential as your morning coffee:

    • God Himself took a chill day on the seventh day (Genesis 2:2-3), setting the ultimate rest-day trend. Not because He needed a nap, but to show us how to kick back and rejuvenate.
    • Jesus was the master of the getaway to pray (Luke 5:16). Even with a jam-packed schedule, he made alone time with the Father a top priority.
    • Psalm 23:2-3 paints a serene scene: “He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he refreshes my soul.” It’s like a spiritual spa day, courtesy of God.
    • Mark 6:31 – “The crowd was buzzing, and they didn’t even have a snack break, so Jesus said, “Let’s hit the pause button and find a quiet spot to recharge.”
    Practical Tips for Christian Self-Care
    Spiritual Practices:
    Prayer
    Scripture Reading
    Worship
    Journaling
    Meditation    		These aren’t mere checkboxes on a to-do list; they’re golden tickets to connect with God! Carve out a slice of your day—15 minutes will do—for some heart-to-heart prayer time. Dive into Scripture, fishing for His wisdom and guidance. Crank up the worship tunes to lift your spirits and inch closer to Him. Grab a journal to untangle your thoughts and feelings, and quiet your busy mind to spotlight God’s presence.
    Physical Well-being:
    Rest
    Nutrition
    Exercise
    Nature    		Dreamland calls, folks! Snooze like a champ because our bodies need their beauty sleep to run smoothly. Fuel up with scrumptious, energizing eats that make your body do a happy dance. Get your groove on with regular exercise—those endorphins are the ultimate mood lifters! And don’t forget to bask in the great outdoors, soaking up God’s artistic masterpiece and savoring that glorious sunshine!
    Emotional & Mental Health:
    Boundaries
    Hobbies
    Laughter
    Community    		Embrace the wisdom of saying a firm “no” to those who drain your spirit, preserving your time for spiritual renewal. Engage in hobbies that fill your heart with joy and allow you to express the creative gifts God has given you. Seek out the joy of laughter, lifting your soul with its divine lightness. Surround yourself with a community of fellow believers who uplift and encourage you, showering your life with faith-filled positivity.
    Overcoming Obstacles

    Hopping on the self-care train can feel like quite the adventure! We often think we need to be superheroes for everyone else, wrestling with guilt, perfectionism, and the fear of disappointing others. But here’s the divine twist: by nurturing yourself, you’re better equipped to serve others as God intended!

    Facing the Self-Care Showstoppers:

    • Guilt Gremlin:
      • Remember, self-care isn’t just a nice-to-have—it’s a divine duty to keep your body and mind in the best shape possible!
    • Time Bandit:
      • Start small! Even a 15-30 minute self-care pit stop each day can work wonders.
    • Support Deficit:
      • Gather your cheer squad—friends, family, or a counselor—to keep you motivated and accountable in this God-honoring journey!
    A Call to Action

    Dear friends, let us embrace the gift of self-care and renewal. Think of it as recharging your spiritual batteries and pampering your well-being. By hitting pause for some rest and soul-refreshing moments, we’ll be ready to spread love, serve with joy, and dance to the tune of His grace and peace.

    Don’t forget, a refreshed spirit is like turbo-charging your soul, all set to rock God’s plan for you! Kick things off today by spotting one area in your life for a self-care makeover, and stride towards a life that’s balanced and brimming with joy in Christ!

    A Salty Girl

  • A Journey of Faith and Purpose — Part Four

    Moving forward to fulfill your purpose requires courage, determination, and resilience. It’s about taking one step at a time, even when the road gets tough. It’s about believing in yourself and your abilities. It’s about having faith that God has already equipped you with what you need to fulfill the unique purpose for which He created you. It’s about not giving up, no matter what.

    As we journey towards fulfilling our divine purpose, it’s important to remember that we are not walking this path alone. God is with us every step of the way. He is our guide, our strength, and our constant companion.

    The first step in this journey is to seek God’s guidance. Pray, meditate, and listen for His voice. Ask Him to reveal your divine purpose to you and to guide you in fulfilling it.

    The next step is to trust in God’s plan for you. His plans are always for our good, even when we can’t see the whole picture. Trust that He has placed this purpose in your heart for a reason, and He will equip you with everything you need to fulfill it.

    Then, take action. Start taking small steps towards your purpose. It could be learning a new skill, helping someone in need, or simply making a positive change in your life. Remember, every step counts.

    “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.” – Proverbs 16:3

    Practical Steps for Moving Forward

    1. Identify Your Core Values: What principles guide your life? Understanding your values will help you make decisions that align with your purpose.
    2. Create a Vision Board:
      Visualize your dreams and goals. Seeing them regularly will keep you motivated and focused.
    3. Set SMART Goals:
      Make your goals Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. This will make them more attainable.
    4. Seek Mentorship:
      Connect with women who are living their purpose and learn from their experiences. A mentor can provide guidance, support, and accountability.
    5. Take Action Daily:
      Even small steps forward will accumulate over time. Commit to doing something each day that moves you closer to your dreams.
    6. Celebrate Your Progress:
      Acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, both big and small. This will keep you motivated and inspired.

    “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 1:6

    Along the way, there will be challenges and setbacks. But remember, God is with you. He will give you the strength to overcome these challenges and the resilience to bounce back from setbacks.

    The journey to fulfilling your purpose is not a sprint, it’s a marathon.

    Every step you take is a step closer to your goal.

    Every step you take towards fulfilling your purpose is a victory.

    Every challenge you overcome, every obstacle you navigate, every time you pick yourself up after a setback, it’s a victory. And these victories deserve to be celebrated.

    Celebrating your progress not only boosts your morale but also reinforces your commitment to your purpose. It reminds you of how far you’ve come and motivates you to keep going. So, don’t wait for the big win. Celebrate every little victory, every step forward.

    Remember, God has a unique and beautiful plan for your life. Embrace your divine dreams, overcome obstacles with faith, and step into your purpose with confidence. You are a powerful woman of God, capable of achieving amazing things. Go forth and unleash your potential!

    A Salty Girl

    PS: Now that you’ve read this post, take some time for reflection and prayer. Ask God to reveal the next step in your journey. Join a community of like-minded women for support and encouragement. Most importantly, believe in yourself and your ability to make a difference in the world.

Angie Ring

A woman of many titles-Mother, Nana, Minister, Therapist…but most importantly, a perfectly and wonderfully made Daughter of the Most High King, Jesus!